Sex only belongs within marriage

Melissa Dunson

Melissa Dunson

Virginity isn’t dead.

I know this isn’t a popular topic, but someone has to stand up for the truth. Premarital sex is not a recreational activity. It’s not just something to do when you’re bored or lonely. It’s not meant to build your self-confidence. Sex is more than a physical act. It’s more than a combination of firing neurons. Sex cannot be undone. Sex is strictly a benefit of marriage.

I’ve heard people justify premarital sex by saying you have to try out a physical relationship before you decide if you want to commit to it. It’s like the 30-day, money-back guarantee on infomercial merchandise.

Thank you very much, but I don’t think I like having the combination of my body, soul and emotions compared to a blender or cheesy exercise equipment. What happens when someone decides they want to return the merchandise? Rejection sucks.

At the risk of sounding clich, sex is a sacred thing. It’s the total joining of two people’s bodies, minds, emotions that cannot be undone when the attraction ends.

Life isn’t like “Friends” where everyone can sleep with everyone else and still be comfortably close buddies. When you sleep with someone, your body makes a promise whether you do or not.

Sex is not an accident. It doesn’t just happen. It’s not a stage every teenager has to go through, and it’s certainly not a lesson that people just need to learn the hard way. Sex is a natural thing, but appropriate when in the right context.

Both are impulses, acted on without thinking. Premarital sex isn’t a runaway train that we exercise no control over. It’s a conscious decision to use and be used.

Sex is a benefit of marriage. Marriage is hard sometimes, but one of the wonderful things about it is the sexual freedom. Here’s a news flash for you: if you’re not mature enough to get married, you’re not mature enough to have sex. You can’t responsibly have one without the other.

I’m not saying waiting is easy, but good things never are. In the end, premarital sex is a horrendously selfish act that hurts you, your partner and a future spouse.

If you don’t care, you should. It’s a precious thing that people are giving away to anyone who acts even remotely interested.

To those who say I’m simply forcing my personal opinion or moral standard on others I assert that truth is not subjective. The world does not exist in grayscale. Some things are just right or wrong.